My son hated his ears, yes they did stick out a bit, but nothing that I thought would lead to him having plastic surgery for correction. The older Armani got the more they bothered him. Something as simple as putting a hat on had him frustrated and disappointed when he looked in the mirror. There were times when I would catch him standing in front of the mirror holding his ears back...
I called the doctor and made an appointment.
So we have been told, we did it all in good time. Armani was eligible for Otoplasty Surgery which is covered in Ontario until the age of 12, in simple terms, they were going to pin his ears back.
What I loved is when meeting the plastic surgeon, Dr. Matthew Choi, he talked to Armani, almost interviewed him, to make sure it was his decision and not some crazy parents decision. He talked about the surgery, why he wanted the surgery and how much pain he should expect, and all about the recovery process.
The doctor explained that children are mean and that it will pass, to see if he could change his mind, and then he took a look to see what he could do, when he realized Armani was definitely a candidate for the surgery. Armani was very quick to show him how he "wants to look".
As a mother, knowing my son was going to be put under the knife for almost 3 hours, for COSMETIC surgery was very difficult, and hard for me to be strong. But I knew this would help his self esteem and prevent him paying thousands as an adult.
Armani had the surgery, and when he woke up in the recovery room the first thing I did was hug and kiss him and ask him if he still felt it was worth it, and he said "I am happy I did it mommy" which made me feel so much better...
In the Recovery Room
He is still in the recovery process. His surgery was August 27th and it takes 6 weeks to heal, so he has to take it easy and wear a mesh net over his head every where he goes. He is not embarrassed because he said "I know I look better now even with the mesh net"... Right there I seen more self esteem than prior, which means the results are endless!!
I had tears in my eyes, as I held his hand and rubbed his head while they put him to sleep, but his strength and confidence gave me the same while waiting for him to come out of surgery.
Armani is Autism Spectrum which can sometimes make him stand out in a school, or class, so I will help in almost any way to make life easier for him.
Sometimes us mothers are forced to make life long decisions for or with our children, and with age they seem to get more difficult. Nevertheless we as parents must listen to our children and help them make appropriate decisions no matter how hard it is for us or them!
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I understand what you went through when your son decided to undergo the Otoplasty Surgery. But, as a parent, I would also do whatever it takes to protect my child emotionally, mentally, and physically. If bullies in the school always make fun of him, I would also support his decision to have the surgery done. I mean, I cannot control the other kids at school, but I can control the situation in our own family. I will do whatever it takes to make my children happy and protected.
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