We cut his hair.... Xavier with short hair!

I have had thousands of views for Xavier being bullied, so I want to update you all, and thank you all for your support and kind words, and emails I have received along the way... there will always be some, who have their own opinions and some who will be rude, but 99% of you were awesome!!

Here are the pictures of before, during and after the hair cutting, it was emotional for all of us, and we are happy to have helped a child who needs a wig.

We donated his hair, 17 inches of it to "Angels Hair for Kids"

The new Kevin McCallister from Home Alone lives with me x2!

I have not written a blog in a very long time and forgive me!!! This is because I decided I was going to go back to work because I had my family to support me!

Well.... let me explain this blog entry. I have the most daring children i think EVER! They are always trying to do something crazy and I can never understand what made them think of it, because when I was a child I did nothing of the sort!!!! (do you believe me?)

Ok... so I was just waking up in the morning when my eldest Armani comes running in the room and says that H word... "Xavier is Hurt", so I immediately hop out of bed and say "what happened?" and Armani explains, "Xavier took a laundry hamper and went down the basement stairs STANDING UP and fell!!!"

Now my first thought is "OH MY GOD IS HE OK"
Second thought "Wait a minute, Armani, were watching this?"
Third thought "what the hell was he thinking"
Fourth thought "why me?"
Fifth thought "Home Alone"

So... the bubble wrap parent I am ran downstairs and asked my eldest.... "what are you guys doing up without mommy"

When I got half way down, Xavier was on his way upstairs, and at this point I can clearly see he was fine! I asked Xavier "Are you okay?" he replies sobbing "yes" so I asked "what the heck were you thinking?" Xavier responded..... "I am the modern Kevin McCallister like home alone... I wanted to snowboard down the stairs"... So because I know my son too well.... i knew this was not his terminology,  so I looked at the awfully quiet and guilty looking older brother who began explaining himself before I even asked.

Now according to big brother... he was walking and he tripped and the laundry hamper was there and he landed in the hamper which then went down the stairs.... ohhhh and apparently I was born yesterday LOL!!!

To make a long story short.... both my sons tried to be the "modern day Kevin from Home Alone"... and they say it gets worse as they get older....

Next thing you know, my boys will be trying to defy gravity for Guinness book of world records!!!

Good news.... The girls still seem to be the calmer two of the bunch!! Lets see how long that lasts, because they are the younger two of the bunch too!!

Cosmetic Surgery at 8 years old!

Kids are mean, and times have changed. Image has become more important than anything else over the past decade.

My son hated his ears, yes they did stick out a bit, but nothing that I thought would lead to him having plastic surgery for correction. The older Armani got the more they bothered him. Something as simple as putting a hat on had him frustrated and disappointed when he looked in the mirror. There were times when I would catch him standing in front of the mirror holding his ears back...

I called the doctor and made an appointment.

So we have been told, we did it all in good time. Armani was eligible for Otoplasty Surgery which is covered in Ontario until the age of 12, in simple terms, they were going to pin his ears back.

What I loved is when meeting the plastic surgeon, Dr. Matthew Choi, he talked to Armani, almost interviewed him, to make sure it was his decision and not some crazy parents decision. He talked about the surgery, why he wanted the surgery and how much pain he should expect, and all about the recovery process.

The doctor explained that children are mean and that it will pass, to see if he could change his mind, and then he took a look to see what he could do, when he realized Armani was definitely a candidate for the surgery. Armani was very quick to show him how he "wants to look".

As a mother, knowing my son was going to be put under the knife for almost 3 hours, for COSMETIC surgery was very difficult, and hard for me to be strong. But I knew this would help his self esteem and prevent him paying thousands as an adult.

Armani had the surgery, and when he woke up in the recovery room the first thing I did was hug and kiss him and ask him if he still felt it was worth it, and he said "I am happy I did it mommy" which made me feel so much better...

In the Recovery Room

He is still in the recovery process. His surgery was August 27th and it takes 6 weeks to heal, so he has to take it easy and wear a mesh net over his head every where he goes. He is not embarrassed because he said "I know I look better now even with the mesh net"... Right there I seen more self esteem than prior, which means the results are endless!!

I had tears in my eyes, as I held his hand and rubbed his head while they put him to sleep, but his strength and confidence gave me the same while waiting for him to come out of surgery.

Armani is Autism Spectrum which can sometimes make him stand out in a school, or class, so I will help in almost any way to make life easier for him.

Sometimes us mothers are forced to make life long decisions for or with our children, and with age they seem to get more difficult. Nevertheless we as parents must listen to our children and help them make appropriate decisions no matter how hard it is for us or them!

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What would happen if I made up my own school uniform?

Why don't all schools have uniforms?!

It really separates the different financial classes of families and gives children less to pick on. Uniformed schools in my open provides structure and discipline, however it is normally only found in private schools, or Christian, Catholic, etc...

So what would happen if I picked out some similar to uniform clothes, and sent my children to school wearing them everyday? I have 3 children in one school, would it start a trend? Do you think parents would join me? Every Friday would be dress down day, when they can wear what they please!

We have already done back to school clothes and like always we went all out because I have a shopping problem, but I woke up with this crazy idea.... in 4 years I will still have 3 children in one school and one in high school.

Of course I would not do this to my high schooler, rather, I would just send him to a uniformed school, because they are so much more common in high school.

I would purchase a blue or grey pair of trousers/slacks whatever you want to call them, and collared shirts, and a blazer, and cardigan, I would also get a grey or blue pleated dress, and skirt for the girls.

Heck I might as well even get the school logo and have it put on the clothes too?!?!

Should I try this? Thoughts? Feelings?

Buskerfest - I am a "Racial Disgrace" apparently!

Buskerfest in Toronto was AMAZING, we went Saturday night!!

For those who don't know what Buskerfest is.... Well take a look http://www.torontobuskerfest.com/

Busking is a job of street performers who only get paid if you enjoy their sows, which means they make the most honest living, they get paid what they deserve! To be honest... I couldn't even pay them as much as they deserve because the talent was endless and all over, I would have been poor....

While at Buskerfest however, it was brought to my attention by an individual that I am a "racial disgrace to the human race, and a monkey face"....

WOW

Racism is still very much alive! Let me rewind to how this all went down!

I am standing among hundreds of people watching to young men perform an amazing show filled with talent and humor and Miki is standing with Xavier on his shoulders, Armani is watching the show, Kimora is trying and Laya is in the stroller....

I hear from behind me....

"You stupid Nigger" of course this drew the attention of me, and others who heard, so I glanced back, and he there was a 70 year old man yelling at a black man in his 30's hold his around 2 year old child....

The man yelling is wearing a Confederate hat, and a Blue blazer with a read shirt.

He noticed I was looking and he yells "and you, you are a racial disgrace to the human race, monkey face", I was so taken back at this moment, and the black guy was starring at me and I was looking at him, and all of a sudden two Muslim ladies who happened to be walking by stopped in front of him not realizing what was going on, and he tried to pull of the ladies ha-jabs, and screaming "terrorist", the black man stepped in front of the ladies with his child to protect them and just when I was about to step in, the old man walked away....

The ladies were calling for their husbands, and I was tapping Miki, but so much talent was all over Buskerfest they did not even realize what was going on....

After he left I looked at everyone and said, "did that really just happen?" all of us shook our heads and I said "don't let him ruin our night, make the most of it"

What an ignorant ASSHOLE, funny thing is a lot of people think I look white, but apparently, I do not!

I am MIXED, and PROUD!

The only disgrace was the ignorance of this man who lives in such a multi-cultural city.... He really made me wonder how many peoples days does he ruin on the regular....

Sad that Racism is still very much alive!

On a good note, here are some pictures of us enjoying ourselves.... Mario The Circus Queen was my FAVOURITE!